Biblical Courtship: God’s Plan for Marriage, Family and Children
There is two choices of text, as follows (either way, please proofread as the former is little more than notes while the second is a draft):
Choice # 1: How do we, as followers of Jesus Christ, engage in courtship in a biblical way, a way in which honors God? The answer is found by studying His word:
Marriage: Genesis 2:18- not good for man to be alone so God made us a help mate Genesis 2:22:24- leaves father and mother for her, cleave to her as one flesh Matthew 19:5- unbreakable bond as one flesh…let no man break apart Proverbs 18:22- wife= “good thing and favor from the Lord”
Purpose: Genesis 1:28 and 9:7 “fruitful and multiply” Psalms 127:5- – quiver of children
Courtship not dating, Done in a way that honors God: 2 Peter 2:20- “escape the pollutants of the world”- separate ourselves from the world’s view on dating/relationships
Courtship as defined by the acronym CARE: Commitment to marriage as the ‘purpose’ Accountability Rejection of modern dating philosophy Establishing of physical boundaries
What to look for? John 3:3-5- mate should be “born again”, “born of water and of the spirit” of Christ 2 Corinthians 6:14-15- don’t be “unequally yoked together w/ unbelievers. For what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness Philippians 2:2- “likeminded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind” Titus 2:4-8- love your husbands and children, be discrete, good housekeeper who would never blasphemy God. Proverbs 6:25- marry a lady of solid moral character. The entire Old Testament says to marry within your own people, your own kindred or folk. In Proverbs 7 it talks of “thy kinswoman”, “keep from the strange woman” and says to not consider anyone of lose morals.
Steps: Luke 14:28–30- prepare first Proverbs 1:8- Get to know family, ask courtship permission from the father. Matthew 10:37- don’t lose priorities, always love the Lord ABOVE ALL ELSE
Respect and honor her, wait for marriage: 1 Corinthians 6:20- glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God’s. 2 Timothy 2:22- “flee youthful lusts” Romans 12:10- brotherly and sisterly love 1 Timothy 5:1-2 treat a as a sister “w/ all purity”. 1 Thessalonians 4:3 “abstain from fornication” 4:6 “no man defraud his brother”
Responsibilities: Find a woman that will help me to bring honor to the Lord. Find a lady of common mind and goals. Man’s role is to lead- Bible study together, prayer together.
———— Choice #2: Biblical Courtship
In the Gospels, Satan tempted Jesus by offering all the kingdoms of the world- if He would just bow down and serve. Of course, if Satan didn’t control the kingdoms of the world Jesus would have known and the offer would have been moot. Satan clearly understood that. Therefore, Satan would not have offered had it not been true. In 2 Peter Ch 2 the Bible tells us to separate ourselves from the ways of the world.
The world’s position on dating seems to be anything from exclusive premarital relations with one person to random hook-ups. These things are not designed for marriage and family- but for personal pleasure. I think if we were to follow God’s a plan of biblical courtship instead of the ways of the world, it would help us to find the right mate for marriage.
What is Biblical Courtship? Acronym ‘CARE’: Commitment to marriage as the purpose Accountability Rejection of modern dating philosophy Establishing physical boundaries
What are the steps for Courtship? 1) In Luke Ch 14 it says to prepare first. 2) The 1st ch of proverbs suggests get to know the family and ask permission from the dad. 3) In Matthew Ch 10 we learn to never lose sight of priorities, love the Lord ABOVE ALL ELSE
Why even marry? Genesis tells us it’s not good for a man to be alone so God made a help-mate. For which the express purpose of marriage is more thoroughly explained in the same Book as to “be fruitful and multiply” and expounded further in Psalms as a “quiver of children”.
What do we look for in a mate? 1) John Ch 3 it says someone “born of the water and spirit of Christ”…and that’s clarified in 2 Corinthians Ch 6 with by not being “unequally yoked together w/ unbelievers. For what fellowship has righteousness with unrightousness?” 2) The Book goes a step futher in Philippians Ch 2 with “likeminded, having the same love, being of one accord, of one mind”…Personally I think….. 3) Titus Ch 2 says “a good housekeeper who would never blasphemy God” 4) Throughout the entire Old Testament it says to marry within your folk or kindred…your own people. In Proverbs Ch 7 suggest to ”keep away from the strange woman” and those of lose morals. So if you’re looking for marriage and to create a family, go forth and find a good mate to court the right way, Biblical Courtship